Ignorance from society:
Ignorance from society is
one of the main causes of social anxiety and depression. Rejection from society
leads to a series of emotional and spiritual issues that need to be addressed. Humans
are not created to be antisocial. The need for human companionship, love,
acceptance, and even touch is inherent to our natures. Rejection, however, can
subjugate those needs creating more serious issues. The Feeling of rejection
from basic needs has a destructive impact on the way we see life and the way we
deal with life. The hardest thing to overcome in a person’s life is the
emotional impact of feeling rejected. Teenagers try their best to be accepted
and loved by people around them. Adults are constantly seeking a slot where
they can be accepted and loved. Those children who are accepted are
significantly more emotionally stable than those who are not. But those who feel
rejected from family and social circles develop a fear of rejection which makes
it harder and harder to be accepted. The end result of such a case is often
depression and anxiety leading to suicide.
Those people who have friends frequently go through life unaware that
others do not, because those others are so isolated as to be socially invisible.
We are living in an era in which Facebook has made “friend” into a verb, we
often confuse the ambient familiarity of websites with the authentic familiarity
that comes with sharing your life’s challenges with someone who cares – who
will be happy because you feel joy, sad because you are ad, worried if you are
not well, reassuring if you are hopeless. We are socially isolated even in
crowded cities and at noisy parties.
Depression is a disease of loneliness. It would be arrogant for people
with friends to pity those without. Some friendless people may be close to
their parents or children rather than to extra familiar friends, or they may be
more interested in things or ideas than in other people. Many people are
desperate for love, but don’t know how to go about finding it, disabled by
depression’s tidal pull toward seclusion. Loneliness will not be fixed by
medication, though pills may instigate the stability to open up to friendship’s
liabilities: potential rejection, exhausting demands, and the need for
Loneliness and depression have always gone hand-in-hand. We’ve all
experienced moments when we find ourselves a little down due to a lack of close
friendships. If someone had no close relationships in life,
it’s not a stretch to assume he would feel some powerful malaise as a result.
Recently, a study conducted over a five year period at the University of
Chicago found that the presence of loneliness early in the five year span
was an excellent predictor for depression later in the five year span. In fact,
loneliness was an even better predictor than the presence of depression itself
early in the five year span.
If there is a person who has to take leave from work because of a big
disease like cancer, no one would think that he is telling a lie or question
the validity of his condition. But if someone takes leave due to flu or
temperature, many of us would think that he is not actually sick and just wants
to take leave. Many people would be of the view that he does not want to come
to work. Not because we’re ignorant, but because everyone has had a cold or
Everyone has gone through flu and temperature. So they think this reason
is not acceptable to take leave from work. But only few of us have dealt with
cancer, and because we all know that it is a life taking disease, we respect it
as a solid reason to take leave. We don’t know that maybe the person having flu
is also facing some other allergies and his condition is so bad that he can’t
even get up from bed. On the other hand, the individual with cancer may be
feeling fine and capable of doing work. His cancer is in starting phase and it
can be cured easily. But he is using his disease as an excuse to skip work. If we
hear that the person with flu had a visit to hospital, we would still say that
the person is not just strong enough to resist these small disease. It is
normal to get flu and temperature. We would ask him to get medicine and come on
work. On the other hand, the person with cancer is treated full opposite. We
would visit him and advise him to take rest, even he is fine that time.
Same is the reason in case of depression and anxiety. Many of us don’t
know that from how much depression a person is going through. Someone misses work
due to major breakdown and we accept it as a major excuse not to come to work.
On the other hand, if someone misses work due to mental disorder or depression,
we simply tell them to get over it and come to work. We tell them to cheer up and
forget all tensions. It is not that easy for that person to come out of
depression instantly. He needs time to recover. But we never take depression a
serious matter which is major fault in our personalities. We should be able to
know the mental condition of people around us. If someone is facing depression
issues, we should give them time to recover.
If sadness and worry were not common emotions familiar to all people, we
would be much more concerned when individuals feel the intense symptoms of
anxiety and depression. But we do have these emotions, and although the
symptoms are just as intense, we are able to disregard them because ‘we know
what it’s like.
Ignorance is a problem that prevents a lot of people from recognizing
the severity of mental illness, and it does add to stigma surrounding
mental illness. However, it is not, in any way, the primary contributor that we
ascribe it to be. While we should be informed and seek to
understand the complexity and severity of mental health, ignorance is not the
most harmful reaction to these conditions. The false belief that we do understand
and our attempts to treat them with trivial advice is the real injustice.